On ADHD and Kabbalah

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After having been in the self development/emotional intelligence work for more that a decade now, I thought that there were not so many things that would surprise me. Thankfully I was so wrong!!

Hello, my dears,

It's nice to be back here and for a good reason. I have recently discovered some things I wish to share with all of you. One of them touches me personally, and honestly, I haven't yet found the right place for it within me. I'll cut straight to the chase.

As you know, if you follow my social media accounts or have ever visited my website, I am very passionate about finding tools that help us live aligned with who we really are, making it easier for us to find the knots and blockages we might have, and a smooth way of releasing those tensions so we can live a better and happier life. I started my self-discovery journey when I was very young, and I haven't (and I likely never will) stopped learning about myself and the world since then. But the information I've been accessing lately could have been more exciting. Now that everybody seems to have become a life coach, I get tired of hearing the same messages without heart from everybody on the internet. At the same time, now that this knowledge has spread, it becomes easier to speak about life and spirituality without being looked at as if I were a maniac, which is nice.

I have a confession to make, though: I have always struggled to control my mind's voice. I can have a terrible temper. I am impulsive, impatient, and disorganized (sometimes). I put too much pressure on myself and have high expectations about others. Dealing with perfectionism is a never-ending process for me. When I am on my period, I can become something that looks like an untamed horse, and I tend to lose control quickly if the situation I am facing is emotionally demanding. It has never been easy for my loved ones to deal with me in that sense, even if I am also a sensitive and loving person at the same time. I am a person of big contrasts. That's the thing: I don't have any shades of gray. I can either be black or white. And let's face it, this doesn't make it easy when going through life.

During the last ten+ years, I've been working on learning who I am and where all these things come from, intending to polish myself and live from a more centered version of myself. I've made a lot of progress, and I am proud of where I've come, what I've learned, and of having found a place and lifestyle that I love and feels like the perfect one for me.

"Why is it still so hard sometimes, then?"" Will these ups and downs ever end?" - These are questions I ask myself whenever I have a bad time or when I've reacted in a bad way because I can't stop myself and think before I speak.

Even if I know that in life, we will never stop learning (and I don't want to!), there are things that I thought I would have overcome by now and I haven't. Like developing focus when I listen to what the person I care about is saying, getting a grip on myself sometimes, and thinking before I act or speak, to name a few. The roller coaster of emotions that I live in makes me tired, sometimes angry, and very sad. So, in the last few months, I started paying closer attention to how things like diet, rest and sleep, and taking the right supplements make such a big difference in how I react to the things that happen to me. I got to these conclusions by experimenting and observing, and of course, with the patient help of my beautiful wife, who is always there to listen and discuss with me what she sees from the outside.

Just a few days ago, I was revisiting the list of supplements I take. I had to buy more, and there were some that I didn't need anymore and others that I would benefit from adding to my list. There's a great YouTube channel I've followed for years since it provides excellent information about health, nutrition, and so on from a doctor who shares a lot of valuable information about how to improve your health in a non-ordinary way. I go there to learn about supplements, fasting, exercise, etc… His channel is called Dr. La Rosa, in case you're curious. He's Argentinian, so the channel is in Spanish, but I am sure you can find people as qualified as him with channels in English on YouTube.

I was watching a video on Omega3 oils, and a thought came out of the blue. I followed it.

First finding: I think I might have ADHD

Now that I have a better understanding of what ADHD is, I feel so sorry for having thought that it was a kind of invention and that people who suffered from it had the perfect excuse not to work on themselves and thought everything could be fixed with a magic pill. Well, it turns out this is not the case.

ADHD is a thing, and a big one, and we are not very well prepared or equipped to deal with it yet so that people with ADHD can live a normal life without having to try to fit in the box society provides for all of us.

For whatever reason, learning more about omega-3 on the bus that day, I thought about researching ADHD and quickly pulled out an article about it on my way home.

I arrived home that evening telling Silvia I had read something quickly on the bus and felt we needed to look at it together.

I couldn't stop crying when we started to go through the characteristics of an ADHD brain together in our living room. Everything clicked, and I found the explanation for why I operate the way I do. Many things, years and years, started to make sense to us from this perspective. There is a reason why I am like I am. To why I forget things, why I can be disorganized or super organized (depending on the mode I'm on that given day), why I react without thinking first, or my bad temper and bad reactions when people who love me speak to me about the most simple things about our day-to-day. It all made sense and, in a way, felt liberating. But suddenly, I had all the stigma I used to have about ADHD over my shoulders. With the little information I could collect over the first few days after my discovery, I felt like I was wrong and that even if I wanted to change, my brain would remain as it is forever.

Accepting this has taken me a long while. I haven't stopped reading and researching, letting Silvia know about my findings, and trying to make sense of everything within me. Just today, as I write this, I start to see the light. I've found a book by Dr. Gabor Maté on this topic, and I feel more encouraged to keep working towards my goals and dreams and less lost.

His approach seems different from what everybody says about ADHD: where it comes from, how to treat it, and how to heal it.

I've started listening to the audiobook this morning and can't wait to go through it all!

No piece of knowledge about myself had stricken me as learning about ADHD has. But I am grateful that this information will help me navigate everyday situations from a healthier perspective and, more importantly, without forcing me to fit in boxes where I will never fit. I don't need to force myself to be something I am not; there's no need to correct anything. I can embrace the way I am, accept myself like I didn't before, and work to find solutions that will work for me. It's been like coming across a part of me I was missing and feeling that I've returned home now.

Over the years, I've tried everything regarding productivity and organization, but I couldn't understand why many things I tried didn't stick. I've now realized just how important it is for me to give structure to my days to have a sense of routine. To eat clean, and now more than ever, I see how my supplements help my nervous system and brain work optimally. It may seem like all this is not that important. However, I am in the process of building my own business in a country where I am still very new. I keep learning and studying about my craft, and I work and have a little family, friends, hobbies, and things I want to learn more about. It is impossible to juggle all these balls when you're a mess in your mind. I know from experience 😉

I am putting extra care into my diet, supplement intake, and rest. I started feeling a sense of calm that I was missing. Finding this out wasn't very exciting initially, but having this knowledge now will be so helpful moving on. Anything that makes us understand ourselves better is welcomed, right? ☺️

BTW here's a link to where you can find this book, in case you're interested in learning more:

My most exciting discovery: The Jewish Kabbalah✨

The next thing I wanted to share with you is an even more exciting discovery. A tool that you can start learning about and apply to your own life. After so many years of studying, I had never come across anything like the Jewish Kabbalah before. It resonated with me like no Eastern or Western philosophy ever did. It is the most balanced way of thinking about life I've ever come across, and I predict its popularity will increase very soon since it is so powerful.

Another tool with the potential to help us transform our lives and raise our level of consciousness.

Kabbalah is the mystic part of Jewish tradition. It holds so much knowledge about how life and the universe work. Kabbalists have tried to understand the why behind everything, so they've dug deep into every discipline one can think of. The knowledge they've gathered over thousands of years of observation and experimentation serves as a roadmap for life.

There's something so beautiful in Kabbalah called "The Tree of Life" that describes the 10 dimensions of the human soul. It makes everything make so much sense.

It looks very complicated because it is. But it is amazing to see how this applies to anything you can think of: from chakras to the enneagram or tarot and many more things! It is insane.

Another awesome thing about Kabbalah is that it makes you think about your purpose in life since, from Kabbalah's point of view, nothing is here without an intention.

But what has really made me fall in love with Kabbalah is the fact that, unlike other spiritualities, it doesn't reject the world of matter. It doesn't make you try to escape from it. It teaches us to accept ourselves just as we are and to integrate instead of reject. I have so much to learn about it, but it made so much sense to me that I wanted to share it with you here.

“I am a big fan of things that make sense 😎”

Here are the links to my sources. You'll see that the content is in Spanish for now. I was so happy when I learned that Mario Sabán is working to make his work accessible to more people in more languages. At least we have quick translation tools to help you dive into his writings and everything he has on his website.

I really hope you find Kabbalah as exciting as I do. There's certainly more information available online than the one Mario provides. But he is so charismatic that I didn't want to waste this opportunity and not tell you about him.

Wow, I didn’t think this newsletter would become such a long one! I really hope you will find all these useful and interesting. I would love to know your thoughts, and if you know more about any of these topics please share it with me 🤗

I need to get ready to work now.

Take care of yourselves ✨

Until next time,

Paloma🕊️ 🤎